Mittwoch, 9. April 2014

Only child features-a predjudice?

In the last German lesson we had to deal with different statements and prejudices. In doing so, I took a glance at an article about only children. There it was indicated that a child without siblings should be more unfeeling and selfish. At once I had to think about it. I have to admit that I am only child and so, I took the statement personally. Could be a truth behind it? 

When I think about my childhood I can say with certainty that I was the opposite of cold-hearted. I had my friends and when anyone annoyed me or did injustice to me, I burst in tears at once, or at least, I was very worried. But you can't put only children into one box. Some are more unfeeling and anti-social whereas others are more extroverted and warm-hearted. 

A big factor of influence is the education within one's family and the social environment. When people around you are always friendly and emotianal, it's to suppose that you become the same type of person. Naturally, the time which takes the family for their child is important too. Parents with a large brood are mostly forced to split their time and this can leave its mark on their children. So it comes that one of them feels neglected or less favored compared to the others and because of that become more cold-hearted and egoistic. So, I wouldn't say that the prejudices are justified without even know the person or the background.

Research within the past 20 years has even shown that only children aren't actuallly selfish, but therefore often score higher for self-eestem and academic achievement than peers who grow up in bigger families. In addition to that, the strong self-confidence of only children comes from hanging around more with adults than with younger one's because friends of the same age are missing. So, it's to assume that most of us aren't egoistic and certainly care for our environment

In my opinion, people should be used to only children and see them as socialized and empathetic instead of cold-hearted and self-centered.




http://greatist.com/happiness/growing-up-without-siblings-disadvantage
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/06/12/only-child-myths-lauren-sandler_n_3424272.html

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